If someone asks me what is the most common showoff event for Indians I would definitely say is it Big Fat Indian Wedding.
I never understood the point of organizing the big fat Indian wedding. The wedding is very special event for the bride and the groom. Can’t it be a simple family affair with only close friends and family members? Why is it necessary to invite hell a lot people just for the sake that they belong to your caste, or community, or area, or your distant relative, or your parents or some other relatives knows them?
What’s point of these weddings besides showing off or I would say wasting money that you have. In any of weddings you can find some characters that cause nuisance be it from bride’s side or groom’s side. They are just as painful as arthritis in old age. You can’t do anything about them. You just have to live with the pain coz they often are some relative of the bride or groom and think of themselves as nothing less than Queen Victoria, and usually are in misconception that the wedding won’t happen without their permission. They can make mountain of molehill just because they have to walk a few steps to get a glass of water, or may be because in morning they get up late and haven’t found any empty bathroom or may be a clean toilet which was left dirty by some of people like them only.
Then at reception I would say that there would be almost 50-60% of people who don’t even know the either of bride’s or groom’s first name. Same would be case with bride or groom, they don’t know who most of the people are or know them just by their face. The common link would be parents or some relatives. Then depending on season it’s either bride or groom has to suffer due to what they wear. If it is summer than groom sweats wearing suit under those hot halogen lights and if it is winter then bride shivers as she never agrees to get covered by a shawl or wear a sweater coz it won’t look good on her wedding dress, she prefers to shiver and look fashionable rather than getting covered and look like a normal person.
Then there are some people who are there just to have food and then cuss about that. Like ‘दाल में नमक कम है’, ‘यार, काजुकतली में चीनी ज्यादा है ’, ‘चुस्की वाला कलर कम डाल रहा है', ‘गोलगप्पे वाले counter पर बहुत भीड़ है…. बड़ा counter नहीं लगा सकते थे’, ‘What!! सिर्फ mango, चीकू, banana, rose and dry fruit shake रखा है' , बादाम shake नहीं है??’ They are there just to curse the food, although they have had 4-5 Kulfis but will say ‘यार कुल्फी अच्छी नहीं थी, XYZ की शादी में tasty कुल्फी थी’. Then there are a lot of characters who are just there to waste food. They fill up their plates up to its limit, then take a couple of bites and then just throw away the plate in bin and move to next counter. And these characters can be any one from close family circle to distant relatives to any prestigious person. They just like to criticize each and everything that comes to their way.
What’s point of having such weddings and wasting lakhs over just one day affair? This money can be used elsewhere for some other constructive work. May be even to feed some poor people who are really in need of the food that was wasted otherwise. Even if they don’t appreciate it, at least they won’t cuss about food.
I never understood the point of organizing the big fat Indian wedding. The wedding is very special event for the bride and the groom. Can’t it be a simple family affair with only close friends and family members? Why is it necessary to invite hell a lot people just for the sake that they belong to your caste, or community, or area, or your distant relative, or your parents or some other relatives knows them?
What’s point of these weddings besides showing off or I would say wasting money that you have. In any of weddings you can find some characters that cause nuisance be it from bride’s side or groom’s side. They are just as painful as arthritis in old age. You can’t do anything about them. You just have to live with the pain coz they often are some relative of the bride or groom and think of themselves as nothing less than Queen Victoria, and usually are in misconception that the wedding won’t happen without their permission. They can make mountain of molehill just because they have to walk a few steps to get a glass of water, or may be because in morning they get up late and haven’t found any empty bathroom or may be a clean toilet which was left dirty by some of people like them only.
Then at reception I would say that there would be almost 50-60% of people who don’t even know the either of bride’s or groom’s first name. Same would be case with bride or groom, they don’t know who most of the people are or know them just by their face. The common link would be parents or some relatives. Then depending on season it’s either bride or groom has to suffer due to what they wear. If it is summer than groom sweats wearing suit under those hot halogen lights and if it is winter then bride shivers as she never agrees to get covered by a shawl or wear a sweater coz it won’t look good on her wedding dress, she prefers to shiver and look fashionable rather than getting covered and look like a normal person.
Then there are some people who are there just to have food and then cuss about that. Like ‘दाल में नमक कम है’, ‘यार, काजुकतली में चीनी ज्यादा है ’, ‘चुस्की वाला कलर कम डाल रहा है', ‘गोलगप्पे वाले counter पर बहुत भीड़ है…. बड़ा counter नहीं लगा सकते थे’, ‘What!! सिर्फ mango, चीकू, banana, rose and dry fruit shake रखा है' , बादाम shake नहीं है??’ They are there just to curse the food, although they have had 4-5 Kulfis but will say ‘यार कुल्फी अच्छी नहीं थी, XYZ की शादी में tasty कुल्फी थी’. Then there are a lot of characters who are just there to waste food. They fill up their plates up to its limit, then take a couple of bites and then just throw away the plate in bin and move to next counter. And these characters can be any one from close family circle to distant relatives to any prestigious person. They just like to criticize each and everything that comes to their way.
What’s point of having such weddings and wasting lakhs over just one day affair? This money can be used elsewhere for some other constructive work. May be even to feed some poor people who are really in need of the food that was wasted otherwise. Even if they don’t appreciate it, at least they won’t cuss about food.
